First off, thank you for reaching out to me directly with this. I was in your husband’s shoes prior to getting the help I needed for my clinical depression, and needless to say it was a difficult time for my entire family.
Let’s start with the bad news first—there truly isn’t a way you can get him to reap the benefits of professional help without him first realizing he has a problem. I know that may seem like common sense, but it’s an important thing to understand. If you dragged him into a therapist’s office right now, he would just sit there unengaged with his arms folded until the session ended, because he thinks he’s just fine.
But as I said earlier, all of this stems on his ability to point the finger at himself. If he’s able to do that, there’s a high likelihood your story will have a happy ending like mine did. If not, then you may have a difficult decision to make regarding your long-term future with him.Again, you must be firm about what you want for yourself and your family and never waiver from it. No matter what happens from there, you have to be at peace with knowing you stood up for the right thing.
How does she not know her father-in-law after more than five years with her husband? How does she not know her mother-in-law and the two aunts of her husband well enough to trust them, even if she doesn’t know the great-uncle?