While your husband may not be a fan of college per se, I bet he appreciates seeing this young man when he comes home. Approach him from that angle, so that he doesn’t feel like you are asking for help with tuition expenses.
Tell him how much you would appreciate him helping to defray the cost of your son’s flight. Suggest, too, that he give your son some cash when he comes home so that he has money to hang out with his friends and get around. Go a step further and invite your husband to continue to send your son money when he’s back at school. It doesn’t have to be a lot, but any contribution will help make the financial burden lighter on you.An ex-boyfriend of mine, someone I dated a few years ago, is often in my town visiting his new girlfriend.
Despite the fact that we were dating, we were also good friends, so we managed to remain friends afterward. Recently, he asked me if we could have dinner together when he visits town — without his girlfriend present.It is possible to be friends with an ex, but you do need to establish boundaries. It should be fine for you to go to one dinner with your ex to see what he wants to talk to you about and get a sense of where his life is today. Naturally, the dynamic would change if another person were around, especially his girlfriend. So it could be fine to have time to talk alone.What you don’t want is to establish a precedent that allows the two of you to see each other independent of her on a regular basis — at least not without her blessing.