Eight months ago, someone from my past reached out to me. I hadn’t heard from them for nearly a decade. We were never official, nor intimate, but had some history together.
It was nice to catch up but I knew they wanted more than friendship. They shared their feelings about me, wanting to spend more time together, but was unsure how things were in my current relationship.They did initiate hanging out again. I agreed but they cancelled due to feeling ill that day. I never heard from them after that — it’s been a month now.
Now you’re dealing with a relationship in which you’re not happy. So why do you keep raising it? Two people are now showing some interest in you but you’re uncertain about both.If you’re ultimately wanting romance in your life, leave any and every truly unhappy relationship.I’m a married man, early 70s. For 60 years, I’ve been close to a distant relative who lives in another country. I’ve visited him repeatedly, twice with my partner of 10 years, always received warmly.
We decided to cancel our trip to their city. This aloofness is uncharacteristic of my relative, and I’m worried whether we’ll ever be welcomed at all. What’s your take?A repeated visit to family in another country is a lovely travel excursion for you and your partner. For your host, however, it can be an intrusion on their own schedule and daily life, now including four adult children, two added partners plus grandchildren.