"Though I do regret waiting so long to come out, it was the right decision for me to wait until I was in a space where I felt safe," says author Lola Méndez.
Because I’m femme and straight-passing, I was able to mask myself as a heterosexual person, which kept me safe — but it quietly ate away at my soul. But, Esmaeilpour adds, hiding our sexual orientation can indeed be a survival strategy for queer minorities.In 2020, I finally felt safe to come out to family and friends, as well as publicly. At the time I washas been legal since 1934. As I began a relationship with my first girlfriend, it felt liberating to finally live my truth and to do so in a place where both society and legislation are supportive of the LGBTQ+ community.