People with narcissistic personality disorder often try to portray themselves as the victim in a conflict even when they're completely wrong.Just because you have an unpleasant interaction with another person doesn’t make them a narcissist. Just .5-5% of the U.S. population has narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, according to, a psychotherapist in Houston and the owner of Riaz Counselling in Texas.
“Narcissists often see themselves as victims due to their deep-seated sense of entitlement, fragile self-esteem and lack of empathy for others,” Cwynar said. This victim mentality leads narcissists to believe they are “constantly being wronged or mistreated by others.” Statements like this make it hard to stand up to the person you’re quarrelling with, likely leading you to retreat and put the control back in their hands.“While many people with personality disorders and relational trauma may believe that others should read their mind, this is especially prominent in people with NPD,” said Grosso.
Eventually, you forget why you’re even fighting because the conversation has gone so far left, she added.When in an argument with another person, typically there is some sort of negotiation. Maybe after a fight about cleanliness, you agree to take the trash out more often while your partner agrees to wipe down the countertops after they cook.