The road trip upstate with your best bud, camping with your crew from college or visiting a new country with a romantic interest. It can all be great – until there's conflict.
"It doesn't mean that they're not good people. It just means our styles are a little different," Leighton said. "We want to try to figure that out before we end up in Tokyo together." We often talk about, "Oh, you should set a budget," but that's actually not enough. It's about how do you set a budget for the things you care about. I could afford an expensive 10-course degustation menu on vacation, but I don't want to spend the money on that. It's not enough to talk about budgets. We have to talk about priorities.That is key, and we don't need to apologize for it. I think everybody also wants it, too.
I think we all have a good sense of, like, "Are we morning people? Are we evening people?” Also, what's the goal of this trip? Why are we going on this vacation at all? Is it for relaxation? Is it a “You-Pray-Love” thing? Is it to see the museums? It's okay to be honest with yourself or the people around you about what you need to have a nice time.
It's kind of the vibe. You have to read the room and see how having a direct conversation would be received. If it's not going to be received well, then yes, you just tough it out and you learn your lesson. Never travel with those people again.What about when you get home and you're feeling hurt? What do you do?